Plus-One or Plus-None?

17 Nov

Although I aspire to keep my bridal blogging free of “problems,” sometimes it’s necessary to discuss unforeseen circumstances that interfere with the joys wedding planning. When JB and I started the exciting task of compiling the wedding list, we quickly realized that the excel spreadsheet of names was not just “ours,” but was also open to friends of parents and grandparents. As a result, the potential plus-ones were pouring out.

Here’s some plus-one perspective: I am a very fortunate bride-to-be with a large family of people who are all extremely close. My girl cousins have always been mistaken for my sisters. Growing up, my grandmothers’ best friends were considered Great Aunts. It is certainly unique that my closest friends are those in my family. I can’t wait to have such amazing support and love on the big day. The more the merrier, right?

However, when I asked our wedding planner for the number of guests that could comfortably attend our venue, I realized selecting bridesmaids was no longer the biggest bridal hurdle. Although exclusivity has never been a strength of mine, I knew there was a magic number we would have to respect so that all guests could actually fit inside of the ballroom. Once our wedding list had exceeded maximum capacity, the potential for drama heightened.

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Do posh brides recognize this dilemma? #WeddingListProblems

Here’s the ideal solution to an overpopulated wedding list: boot all plus-ones off the wedding island.

This plan is far easier said than done. The real question remains, which plus-ones are the exception? Originally, we decided that all friends who are not engaged or married will have to attend without their significant others. When JB broke the news to certain buds, most understood, few expressed annoyance, and then there were those who panicked with the realization that their girlfriends were plus-ones rather than priorities.

I advised JB to be very straightforward with his friends. Essentially, “if you like it then you should have put a ring on it.” These Beyoncé lyrics come with a caveat: with about four months left until wedding invites are finalized and sent, there’s still plenty of time for JB’s friends to pop the question and add their ladies to the list.

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This Feyonce is in agreement with Beyoncé.

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Unfortunately, the loss of a plus-one can detract from the excitement of a guest who is in a relationship. With that said, this rule does present the opportunity for groups of friends to reunite for an evening of dancing, drinking and posing at the photo booth. After breaking the news to a few of my close girlfriends in serious relationships, they plan on piling in one hotel room and dancing the night away. No men? No problem!

I am learning that the idea of booting all plus-ones is certainly flawed. Let’s circle back to one of JB’s college buddies who has had the same girlfriend for years. Even though there is no ring in sight, I happen to know his girlfriend very well. Over the course of many double dates she has become my friend independent of her man. Therefore, although not yet engaged this couple remains on the list.

Here’s an exception to ponder: Do Groomsmen and Bridesmaids get an automatic plus-one?

At the moment, I don’t have a firm “yes” or “no” answer, and I imagine other brides-to-be are in a similar sticky situation. Our wedding list remains a work in progress. After spending too many nights debating who is entitled to a plus-one, we decided to make a rule that overrides all others: every name on the list must be someone who we plan to personally embrace at our wedding. If the potential plus-one fits this rule, then they’re invited. However, if the bride or groom can’t even recognize the plus-one, he or she must be excluded. Every invitation counts!

Cutting down the wedding list is most definitely a dreaded activity. However, I advise brides to remember that your wedding is the ONE day you can be selective, and surround yourself with those who bring you and your fiancé the most joy.

As I continue to perfect the wedding list with JB, we have decided to eliminate the “plus-ones” on a case-by-case basis. I can only imagine what the future holds for our seating arrangements!

Follow Posh Petals and Pearls as I continue to blog my wedding plans with minimal drama.

Wedding Inspiration from Mr. and Mrs. Clooney

14 Nov

Here’s the obvious: The Clooney wedding was nothing short of a fashion fairytale for celebrity brides like Amal Alamuddin. As I took a closer look at certain details of the world famous affair, I found three particular points of inspiration that are applicable to every posh bride. Even if brides sincerely tone down the Clooney wedding, there is plenty of potential to capture the elegance of the grand affair on a realistic and affordable scale.

  • The Royal Entrance and Exit.

After a civil ceremony, Clooney and his bride were pictured aboard a taxi boat named “Amore.” Though nothing short of extreme, the lovebirds’ shuttle service on the romantic waters of Venice is every bride’s most coveted getaway.

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Unless the bride is susceptible to seasickness, who would complain?

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Although unquestionably romantic, for most brides, this particular service is highly impractical. Surely, there are dramatic ways of entering and exiting a wedding ceremony without motoring along the Grand Canal in Venice, Italy.

What are bride’s thoughts about entering their ceremony via horse and carriage? After living in Savannah for nearly four months, I have become accustomed to the Southern charm of beautiful horses who elegantly strut around my neighborhood. If the horses receive proper care and grooming, and the wedding gown is safely tucked inside the carriage, I happen to think this particular entrance is extremely romantic.

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A horse and carriage entrance is arguably more dramatic than Clooney’s water taxi.

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  • Hire a Photographer and an Artist.

Although the ravishing couple received non-stop press and photography, the coolest Clooney wedding portrait was the creation of the bride and groom as Simpson characters. Along with top fashion icons such as Karl Lagerfeld, Coco Chanel, and Anna Wintour, Clooney and his bride, Amal, are officially stylish renditions of the renowned cartoon series. Contemporary artist and activist, AleXsandro Palombo is responsible for adding the newlyweds to his current collection, proving that even cartoon characters can wear couture.

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How about a Simpson’s wedding caricature to frame?

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Inspired by the transformation of Amal to Marge, I plan to have an artist at my wedding to capture the details of my dress, the backdrop of our ceremony, and of course the embrace between myself and my groom.

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A caricature of the bride and groom is a creative addition to the standard wedding portfolio.

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  • Consider Dainty Wedding Bands.

Most of the Clooney wedding buzz revolved around Amal’s series of designer garments which she wore over the course of three glamorous days in Venice. My favorite of the bunch was a lace long-sleeved Giambattista Valli dress embellished with bright flowers. Amal has inspired my rehearsal dinner dress. Hint: I might have replaced the flowers with beads, stones, and possibly pearls.

I am one of many brides-to-be who have fallen in love with Amal’s elegant wedding band. The sparkly ring shown below generated considerable chatter from those in the jewelry business. Her band was perceived as fairly understated addition to her engagement ring, which is estimated at seven-plus carats. Amal wore the band on her left finger, allowing the diamonds to shine independent of her rock. Since I’ve learned to never exclude the groom from bridal blogging, I must comment on Clooney’s band. It was sharp and classic, which is only fitting for a man who has been named the “Sexiest Man Alive.”

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A closer look at the power couple’s wedding bands.

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Father of the bride, Ramzi Alamuddin, made a very interesting remark after the affair, referring to his daughters wedding as “grand” but “simple.” Grand is most definitely a fitting description, although I’m still wrapping my head around the simplicity of the affair. Regardless of differing opinions, brides around the world have fallen in love with the elegant style of the Clooney wedding. Although I didn’t make the invite list, I can certainly draw inspiration from Mr. and Mrs. Clooney’s wedding in preparation for my June nuptials.

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I still can’t get over Amal as a Simpson character… simply fabulous.

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Here comes the bride…Here comes her bling!!

10 Nov

This past Saturday was double date night with Rachel and Ryan, a fabulous couple in Savannah. We spent the majority of dinner chatting about our upcoming weddings, exchanging pictures, and laughing at our men across the table who remain clueless about our gowns. Rachel and Ryan are set to marry in a romantic Savannah square this December. Later that night, while exchanging texts about our enjoyable evening together, I received an unexpected picture of Rachel’s gorgeous bling…#engaged on November 8, 2014.

After that night’s dinner I started to think about engagement rings and the hype over cut, color, clarity, and carats, better known as the 4C’s. Although receiving a ring upon saying “yes” is certainly traditional, who says that the ring should come before planning? I love the thought of planning a wedding with your significant other and simultaneously anticipating the bling. Although the stone is certainly not the center of the marriage, it does reveal a lot about the bride and groom-to-be.

Like most brides-to-be, inspiration for my ring started months before my engagement. Although it makes me cringe, I do remember a six-month anniversary poster that I made for JB with pictures of wedding rings glued next to pink bubble letters, which read “Future Mrs. Peterman” (crazy, I know). Obviously, my heart was set on marrying JB very early on in our relationship. With that said, I never knew whether or not I would have a say in the bling.

Here’s a question I still ponder: If the bride is expected to wear her ring everyday as a symbol of her marriage, should she have a say in the style?

Today I’m sharing some sparkly thoughts as a bride-to-be whose ring was the most successful surprise…

Don’t let trends trump tradition. 

Initially, much of my inspiration for an engagement ring came from dazzling celebrities and a few too many hours watching the E! network. I went through a phase where I was confident in my adoration for a rose gold engagement ring. I thought the ring would compliment my pale complexion and light hair. JB didn’t quite agree that there was a correlation between beauty and bling.

Even before receiving an engagement ring, I purchased a ring for the sister finger. Have brides seen the renowned “love” ring that exploded in popularity only after Lauren Conrad posted the instagram below? Apparently, it’s trendy to wear a ring right next to the rock.

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…and that’s how trendy invaded my vision of classic. @LaurenConrad 

My “love” ring is one I still have but rarely wear. Ironically, I was wearing it on the day I said “yes,” which also happened to be the day when Lauren Conrad’s engagement no longer influenced my style.

But how about Blake Lively’s ravishing rock set in rose gold? In my opinion it’s a perfectly pink engagement ring. Despite my celebrity crush, JB remained unconvinced that rose gold was the right choice for his bride-to-be.

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The ring is gorgeous, but then again what’s not gorgeous about Blake Lively?

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Although both celebrity rings are stunning, neither have that perfect shimmer, the kind that only comes from the man behind the bling. So, while trends like rose gold might swoop in and tempt your thoughts, be careful what you wish for.

Don’t let hints hinder the groom. 

I am a strong believer in the elegance of subtlety (lesson learned after creating a six month “marry me” anniversary poster). While brides are entitled to express their preferences, there are consequences for becoming too involved and losing sight of what being engaged really means. One of my friends actually printed out a photo of the exact ring she desired, only to “drop” it in her boyfriends office. Ultimately, she received the ring of her dreams without every discussing the mystery of the misplaced paper. Some men flourish with very specific direction. Others choose to take on the mission solo.

There is no right or wrong way to acquire an engagement ring. If a couples trip to the diamond store is mutually agreed upon, then why not? Aside from a puppy, I can’t think of a more exciting treasure to shop for as a team.

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Some hints are harmless. Others detract from the sparkle of it all.

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Don’t Compromise the Surprise.

Even if you personally select every aspect of your engagement ring, let your boyfriend dictate where and when he will pop the question. On the day of my proposal, I was so shocked, that when JB got down on one knee, I forgot he was holding a diamond ring. While smiling, crying, and laughing, JB slipped the most beautiful ring on my finger, one that I could never have picked out for myself. I was far too busy looking at rings on other brides to realize the potential of my own bling.

JB proudly designed my engagement ring entirely on his own. One year later, and six months closer to saying “I Do,” I’m thankful that my rosy gold obsessions were not taken to heart.

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It’s easy to get caught up in the bling. When the moment comes, just remember it’s who, not what you say, “yes” to!

~Written with inspiration from my dear friend Rachel, whose nontraditional engagement was exceptionally memorable~

Brides Who Bachelorette

7 Nov

A few nights ago I was talking with my handsome groom when the conversation turned from bouquet to bachelor party. Although JB was painfully patient while reviewing color schemes for napkins and tablecloths, I could tell the wedding wheels were spinning in a different direction. He had started brainstorming bachelor party destinations, all of which sounded less like a party and more like a friendly episode of Survivor. As I began to discuss the recovery I would need from a potential glamping trip, JB politely reminded me that I was not invited.

Call me crazy, but I briefly contemplated being that couple, the one that just can’t resist a joint bachelor/bachelorette party. I have never been a believer in the tradition of setting the bride and groom free for one “last night of freedom.” Why not combine the celebrations? Regardless of my perspective, the couples party was politely vetoed both by my fiancé and my bridesmaids.

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Remember this couple from Bridesmaids? Kevin and Becca went on a “sweetheart honeymoon.” I bet they also combined the bachelor and bachelorette. #MostAnnoyingCouple

And so, after coming to terms with the reality of my bachelorette, my own wheels started to spin. Perhaps, while all of JB’s favorite buddies shivered somewhere with tents and a campfire, the ladies could sunbathe somewhere with poolside chairs and a jacuzzi? Suddenly, the theme of my bachelorette began to feel more like Prada and less like Patagonia.

Below are a few tips for brides who are beginning to brainstorm for their bachelorette in the midst of wedding planning…

Get your top gals on the map.

Start by creating your ideal list of female attendees. Although less daunting than the wedding list, there are a few factors to keep in mind such as travel. I will need to help select a destination for friends and family to meet since they are all over the map: Nashville, New York City, California, Washington DC, and New Jersey (not to mention the bride in Savannah). If your girlfriends, like mine, are near and far, I suggest making a list of each pretty face with their contact information. After you invite a few more than you anticipate will commit, set the final list into the hands of your trusted bridesmaids. Your work is almost complete.

Brainstorm potential activities.

I recently watched a short clip on The Knot where two editors discussed various bachelorette activities. One woman brought up the possibility of running a 5K with the bride and her crew. Another suggested arranging an acrobatic class to tighten and tone those muscles that just might show in the bride’s wedding dress.

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In the spirit of the Kardashian sisters, perhaps my bachelorette buddies could help me “get it tight” before the wedding?

Although there are a few impressively athletic gals in my circle, I have decided to reserve all cardio for purposes of couture.

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Set some boundaries or the bride could be running a marathon.

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Let the Ladies know your limits.

My ideal bachelorette party would take place in a warm, sun filled location such as Miami with plenty of tanning, spa treatments, shopping, and delicious food. Clearly there are a few traditional aspects of the party missing from my vision. If certain brides wish to attend a PG bachelorette party, make sure to speak up.

With that said, what bride wants to police their own party? #DontBeTooLame

Definitely, leave your other half at home.

Since the days of college, I have learned how extremely challenging it can be to gather your favorite girlfriends for a weekend of laughter and memories. Let your bachelorette facilitate a girls reunion. Don’t complicate the plan with your main man, or any men for that matter. I can already picture my girlfriends bundled in hotel robes, laughing, snacking and blushing in embarrassment over a few rounds of “never have I ever.”

Eventually, stop ruining all the fun.

Here’s the biggest piece of advice for brides: devote your energy to the wedding, allowing all events leading up to the big day to unfold as they may. Bask in the excitement of an unknown bachelorette itinerary, with the confidence that you are in the hands of your best friends. Also, in case brides were wondering, that Vegas rule applies to any bachelorette location.

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.stays in Miami, even when the bride returns to Savannah.

There’s no “MY” in Wedding.

3 Nov

I thought it might be wise to kick off the week with some genuine advice from     one bride to another. With six months left until the big day, I am constantly in planning mode. So where does all of this leave my sweet groom, who often comes home to messy mood boards, wedding magazines and that “virus” called Pinterest consuming his computer screen?

Although I know we are both equally ecstatic about the wedding, I remain considerably more intense about each detail. Unfortunately, Bridezilla reared her blonde head quite early in the planning process. Here are two mistakes every bride must avoid:

#1) When speaking about the wedding, I would repeatedly say, “my wedding” to which JB would respond, “wait, am I invited?” Correction: It’s always “our” wedding.

#2) I once, very dramatically, told JB his main role in the planning process consisted of showing up on the big day. It’s a fairly simple responsibility, unless of course your groom is Mr. Big from Sex and the City.

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Every Brides Worst Nightmare.

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Luckily, my groom does not share Mr. Big’s cold feet and commitment issues. In fact, if JB was any movie character he would certainly be Noah from The Notebook.

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Noah would never leave Allie at the altar. Who knew Halloween costumes could inspire weddings?

While at Officer’s Development School this past summer, JB would sneak his phone to make sure he was up-to-date on meetings with the florist and the venue. Month’s later JB’s desire to remain included in wedding planning has not wavered. Take note of an e-mail received just last week with the subject line “cake.”

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Seriously, Sarah? This bride has to be more in tune with her groom!

If only I had showed JB the entire mood board dedicated to cake options, cake toppers, and potential ingredients. Last week I spotted a cake in The Knot Magazine made entirely of crepes and fresh berries! He just might love this idea.

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Check out LaelCakes.com 

Obviously, both the bride and groom play crucial roles in preparation for the big day. Since there truly is no “I” in team, and no “me” in wedding, I advise all brides to kick bridezilla to the curb before it’s too late.

Last week when JB returned home from work, the mood boards and wedding magazines were out of sight. I also created a file on our laptop dedicated to bridal pinning so that Pinterest no longer invaded the desktop. When JB opened the door he found a very personal invitation to participate in our wedding plans with His and Hers vow books.

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Etsy is a Brides Best Friend. (These beautiful vow books are made by The Paper Walrus)

As a bride-to-be I have learned that the best planning is accomplished when the other half of the ceremony is on board. Although one person may spend more time planning than the other, it takes two to say “I Do.” This week I am taking a break from outside sources to draw my own inspiration for the special words I will share with my groom on OUR wedding day.

Every Bride Needs “Something Blue”

2 Nov

In the process of wedding planning, I constantly reference the famous English rhyme, “Something Olde, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue, A Sixpence in your Shoe.” This catchy rhyme unites brides in their search to accessorize with meaning. The trends have surely changed since the days when a bride would wear a sixpence in her shoe as dowry for the groom. As a bride-to-be, in an especially fashionable time, it has come to my attention that “something blue” can easily become something outrageous. Let’s take a look at a few trending bridal blues, some of which are subtle, and all of which are sensational.

Are French nails out this bridal season?

Brides are most often seen with French manicures and light pink pedicures. However, I wonder whether some posh brides would consider painting their nails, toes or possibly both a shade of blue? (Mother of the bride, if you are reading this, please don’t panic!) If brides prefer to leave their nails a light pink, perhaps adding a touch of blue sparkles would fulfill “something blue?”

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I call this a subtle dusting of “something blue”

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SomeBLING blue.

Over the past few weeks, JB has been talking about what type of wedding band he may want. I think he’s beginning to crave a ring on his finger too (glad he finally understands the feeling)! I was of course thrilled to escort my groom on the hunt for his and hers wedding bands.

We had a particularly memorable experience in Savannah’s famous Levy Jewelers, where we tried on various styles of engagement bands. While JB was busy debating the width of a 4mm verses a 5mm band, I wandered over to a more shiny display case. I have always admired wedding bands with delicate diamonds circling the finger. While browsing, I remembered an antique sapphire wedding band that my grandmother frequently wears. Although my first inclination was to choose a band with diamonds, I am now considering the beauty and significance of blue stones.

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Wedding bands are supposed to be worn closest to the heart. Dare to dazzle with blue stones?

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The bluest bridesmaid of them all.

I love spotting wedding parties where each bridesmaid wears a different shade of blue down the aisle. If brides are still in the process of choosing a color scheme, perhaps consider “something blue” as a token of love from the bridesmaids. A blue bridal party is a clever way to represent the principles of marriage referenced in the rhyme. After all, bridesmaids are selected because they are the most loving and loyal of them all!

 

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This elegant wedding offers more than a little “something blue.” (the shoes are my favorite!)

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Always save the best for last… 

Once I found the dress of my dreams (stay tuned for more details), I was determined to find a classic, flat shoe that would essentially hide under the “wow” of my dress. That plan didn’t last very long. Even though my dress is fashion forward, and very much the opposite of simplistic, I plan to let my shoes make a statement of their own.

And so my bridal shoe search began…and still continues.

How high is too high?

Depending on the height of your groom and how dainty you feel walking in heels, I recommend settling on the conservative end of the stiletto spectrum. Why not save the shortest dress and highest heels for the bachelorette party? It might be the only occasion where a bride can fall with little shame.

A tumble down the aisle, however, is something this bride is unwilling to risk. I am grateful that my father, who will be walking me down the aisle, is one of the strongest men I know. And so, regardless of which heels I choose, I will be gripping my dads arm as he escorts me to my groom. Brides should feel confident that their shoes will help them gracefully walk down the aisle, stand still for “I Do’s” and dance the night away! They must be both fashionable and functional.

If the shoe fits…consider them in blue.

As my search continues, I remain open minded to the possibility of a white or ivory shoe with crystals, feathers or other specifically blue accents. At this very moment, I am eyeing one pair with just the right touch of blue. Here’s my dilemma: will I ever wear these beauties again? If brides decide to invest in a glamorous shoe, make sure they are a smart addition to the current collection. Unless you are Keira Knightley (pictured below), most brides do not recycle their wedding dresses. Luckily, no such rule applies to shoes.393e123d50b96af34d99511c55194955

Even if your dress was Chanel would you wear it again… and again? #ShouldBridesRecycle?

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Here’s a posh idea: Pick a bridal shoe that is over the top special with a heel, sole, or sparkly detail to capture “something blue.” After the big day, wear these shoes on each wedding anniversary to relive your walk down the aisle, and the many hours spent dancing with confidence and style. If you are a particularly traditional bride, don’t forget to remove the sixpence from your left shoe. (Fun Fact: although no longer the seventeenth century, brides can still purchase a sixpence for the big day!)

In honor of the most famous bridal rhyme, how do posh brides plan to maximize “something blue?”

Say Yes To the Dress- Bridesmaids Edition

27 Oct

When I asked four beauties to join me down the aisle, I promised to avoid bows, ruffles, and obviously unfortunate colors. Without hesitation, they all said “yes!” The easiest part was over. Stay tuned for a post on the creative ways I proposed to each of my bridesmaids.

But first, the drama of selecting the ideal bridesmaid dress…

Surprisingly, the search for the winning bridesmaid dress was just as eventful as the hunt for my bridal gown! Although only my bridesmaids will see the dress I’ve chosen before the big day, I’m open to sharing my slightly dramatic shopping experience with fellow posh brides.

Think BIG picture.

In most cases, bridesmaids will have different body types, hair colors, and of course personal preferences. One of my bridesmaids announced her refusal to wear a halter dress before I had even stepped foot in the first store. Many brides wish to take their bridesmaids with them on the search. I chose instead to shop with the mother of the bride, who has an incredible eye for fashion and a fabulous attitude with every aspect of wedding planning. As a bride who knows her beautiful bridesmaids quite well, I tried on dress after dress questioning whether the shape, length, and color would be complimentary to all. I always asked myself, “well would I be happy wearing this dress down the aisle?” If the answer was “no,” or perhaps a “yes “with slight hesitation, I moved on to the next option. I probably tried on twenty-seven dresses.

In all fairness, I do believe there are certain preferences that should be considered when choosing one dress expected to be worn with love by all. With that said, the more bridesmaids in a bridal party, the less chance the bride has of satisfying each belle in the ball.

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Keep this in mind: there is a high probability that some of your bridesmaids have once upon a time or two worn a nightmare down the aisle. Don’t let your choice of dress collect dust in the closet after the wedding. #MakeItStylish #MakeItMemorable

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Posh brides, keep in mind the option of choosing a color and letting the bridesmaids select their own dresses. I was a recent bridesmaid in a wedding where every gal could choose the style of dress with the exception of color (black) and length (gown). Such fashionable freedom added character down the aisle without losing the elegance of coordination. Although I loved this idea, I opted for a more uniform look with a hint of color and the opportunity for each bridesmaid to add their own accents.

Choose COLOR with Confidence.

Many brides choose one color for the entire affair, from the bridal party all the way to the napkins at the reception. That’s my kind of bride. When posh brides find the perfect bridesmaid dress, request a color swatch from the store. I was able to send a swatch to the mother of the groom, grandmothers and some others in the wedding party, so that everyone could shop with a similar color in mind.

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A clash could be disastrous.

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Narrow down possibilities with LENGTH.

In the fashion of a black tie affair, I decided that all my bridesmaids would wear evening gowns. However, on a recent episode of Say Yes to the Dress- Bridesmaids Edition, I watched a bride who chose a cocktail dress for all of her bridesmaids with the exception of the maid of honor, who wore a full-length gown. I thought this approach was rather clever, if the bridesmaids don’t mind a little bit of favoritism.

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Avoid the battle between short and long.

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Allow an ACCENT.

Although I selected one particular dress for all four bridesmaids, I did let the girls choose whether or not their gown would have straps. In addition, my bridesmaids will choose their own thin belts, perhaps pearls or jewels, to accent each waistline. I am also considering altering hairstyles so that the bridesmaid who absolutely cannot wear her hair up has the option of showing off her long flowing locks. Considering personal preferences makes a huge difference!

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This dress was runner-up (right style, wrong color).

Easy ACCESS to all bridesmaids.

I was very lucky to find the perfect bridesmaid dress at a store with various locations throughout the country. The list of Bella Bridesmaids stores covered each of my bridesmaids from New York City to Nashville. However, if posh brides happen to find their dream dress in a boutique with one location, the bridesmaids can simply provide their measurements, and each dress can be shipped and tailored for the big day

Most importantly…don’t OBSESS over the Dress.

Although posh brides will always care about how each girl feels walking down the aisle, too much stress negates the purpose of having bridesmaids. Don’t allow the daunting task of selecting bridesmaids dresses cloud the excitement of having best friends and family by your side. You only get ONE day to be a Bride, and countless opportunities to be a bridesmaid. Katherine Heigl knows best – you could be a bridesmaid on twenty-seven different occasions. #yikes.

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It all works out in the end.

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